Thank you to everyone who nominated a special woman in your life! We loved reading all of the letters you wrote. We wish we could have given everyone a free treatment! You all deserved it!
I am the luckiest man alive! This doesn’t mean I win every drawing, game of chance, door prize, etc. Quite honestly, I get slaughtered at every one of those things. No, I am the luckiest because somehow, someway I was able to meet the most amazing woman in the entire world, get her to fall in love with me, marry me, and to stick with me. It’s a good thing too, because she truly is my addiction.
Many of us look back on our lives and try to pin-point the moments that really shaped who we are today. Whether that moment happens in an instant or a grandiose event, it doesn’t really matter. What matters is the fact that it was a time when something changed drastically. For me, those moments have come in abundance and the changing event has guided the ship of my life through some very dangerous and perilous waters. All parallels and euphemisms aside, these two events are what made me who I am today. So what are those events? The day I met my wife and the day I was diagnosed with Leukemia.
My wife and I met on a blind date and, like most blind dates, it was a little awkward. But we still had fun. I called her a week later and over the next 3 months we dated, talked on the phone for hours at a time, and were pretty much inseparable. On Valentine’s Day 2004 we were engaged…at sunset…on the beach…in Maui. So why does this make me the luckiest man alive? We aren’t the only lovebirds to experience the whole beach engagement at sunset thing. I’m the luckiest, because prior to meeting me, my wife had been engaged and had made one of the hardest decisions of her life…that it wasn’t meant to be, and called off the engagement. I met her shortly after this and even then she still struggled with how hard a decision it was, albeit she knew it was the right one. From my perspective, the courage it took for her to call off the engagement is something I will always admire; especially knowing how much it had hurt the other person. I am the luckiest because, unbeknownst to her, she waited for me.
Shortly after we were engaged, I was diagnosed with Leukemia in March 2004. This is the other event that makes me the luckiest man alive. Knowing that Leukemia was a terminal illness, I was terrified that I would make my wife a young widow. I remember telling her that her life would be much easier and better if she moved on and let me deal with the illness. I told her this and told her to find someone who was healthy and could, with more certainty than myself, offer her a long life together. She refused. Again she waited for me. She was the rock of strength for me. She was by my side through some of the most difficult challenges someone could ever face in life. I spent 3 months confined to a hospital bed, underwent round after round of chemotherapy, total body radiation, and eventually a bone marrow transplant. It was the hardest and scariest thing I have ever been through in my life, and my then fiancé was there through it all. I know it was tough for her and she had moments of hopelessness and fear, but she was there, shoulders square, head held high, and the silent comfort that gave me the determination to continue fighting. Because of the Leukemia and the treatments given, the doctors told us we wouldn’t be able to have children of our own. My wife, with all her dreams of being a mother and caring for her own children, still stuck with me, knowing it wouldn’t be possible to see those dreams come true.
Well, almost six years later, I look back and think about what life has presented. Through years of heartache trying to have children and trying to adopt without success, not once did she ever regret her decision to stick with me. I felt horrible for her, knowing how much she wanted to be a mother, yet neither of us could do anything to realize that dream. Eventually, through the miracle of modern medicine, we were able to have children…twin girls. They are now 15 months old and the joy of our lives. They are very good babies (which I attribute to my wife), but they are also twins – double the pleasure and double the fun (work). My wife is truly an amazing mother. Obviously with twins it doubles the amount of effort and time it takes to get things done. Yet, somehow she manages to stay on top of everything around the house: all the cooking, cleaning, meals, exercise, reading, playing, and teaching our girls. I can’t believe all the things she gets done in a day. When I have the girls, all I can get done is the playing J. She truly is an amazing mother and homemaker.
On top of the domestic stuff, my wife is one of the truest, kindest, most sincere, loving people you will ever meet. I remember having a conversation when we were dating where we were talking about changing your personality to fit the person you were dating. I remember telling her I hoped she never changed because I had fallen in love with her, not anyone else, and certainly not the person she thought I wanted her to be. I am the luckiest because SHE is exactly the right person for me, her and no one else.
Anyway, I don’t mean bore you with a long list of things that make my wife deserving of a little pampering, whether the pampering comes from a giveaway or not. In my mind, if I could, I would give her everything under the sun…and more. I hope, in some small way, that I have demonstrated the type of person she is and I’ll sum it all up by repeating what I’ve already said, “I am the luckiest man alive.”
One Year ago my cousin Laeci Bird gave birth to who appeared to be a healthy baby boy who she named Cooper. Very little time passed after he was born that the doctors discovered that something serious was wrong with him and he was care flighted to Primary Children’s Hospital in Salt Lake City. He was diagnosed with Hersbrungs Syndrome. Hersbrungs Syndrome is a birth defect of the large intestine where the child is missing the nerve ceels in part of the intestine that help push stools through and out of the body. He was fitted with a colostomy bag and told he would have to have surgery to fix his bowels when he was 1 year old. His mother and father were devestated, but have pushed through all his ordeals with enormous strength. Laeci has been in and out of the hospital more than a dozen times with her son in the past year, most of which they had to stay for weeks at a time. Even tho she and her little family have been through so much, they are still very positive people and strive to live good lives and give their son the best.
In addition to everything she’s been through with little Cooper, a couple months ago they had to move in with her husband’s parents because their medical bills were so overwhelming that they could no longer afford their own place. Even with medical debt consolidation and insurance their medical bills total over $100,000.
I think Laeci deserves a spa treatment for mother’s day because of the tremendous courage she has shown her young child by helping him and staying with him all through all their hospital stays and visits, and because of the strength she’s shown throughout everything they’ve been through in the past year. She’s been her family’s light through everything. She is a wonderful mother and has been through alot. After being through so much Cooper has a hard time being away from her and she cannot get a moment’s peace without him. His last surgery was last week and now that things are calming down he’s finally letting other people be around him and it would be awesome for her if she could get some time away. Please pick my cousin Laeci Bird!
I would like to nominate my mom Linda Oberle for the mothers day giveaway. She deserves it because she is the most caring mom and the most selfless person in the world. She always puts everyone elses needs before her own. Even now that I am grown up I consider her my best friend. She is always there to support me and listen to me and give me advice. She has been through alot in the past year to make her doubt her abilities as a mother and I just want her to know how great of a mom she really is. Last April, my younger brother made a poor decision and decided to drink and drive. He caused an accident and the person he hit did not survive the accident. As a result of that he is serving time in prison. My mom partly blames herself and feels as a parent she must have done something wrong for him to have made that choice. She goes down to visit him in prison at least once a week even though its a 2 hour drive away. Her love is so unconditional and I would like to show her how much she is really appreciated and how I can’t imagine going through life without her. On behalf of my brother and myself we again would like to nominate her to show her our love.
Also she deserves to be pampered!
I would like to nominate my wife, Mackenzie Dye, for a 90 minute massage. She is the glue that holds our family together. Our son was born in March 2008 and had many complications. He had a fractured skull and had weak muscle tone. He went into the NICU and also was born with clubfoot. Hours after her c-section she was walking around so she could be near her son. Pushing through the pain so she could visit him in the NICU. Shortly after he came home we were stationed in Germany and had our son treated for the clubfoot there except they did it wrong. So she found the man who created the method and talked with him and a week later she was flying from Germany to Iowa to get our son treated by the best clubfoot doctor out there. When we were reassigned back to the states because our son was undiagnosed she fought to the bone to get the doctors to do testing so she could know how to take care of him and help him progress. She is the reason he sits by himself, the reason he eats solid foods, the reason he says the words he does. Finally he was diagnosed, because she pushed and pushed for it, with a form of Muscular Dystrophy. She does therapy with him every day while he screams and cries and has done this since he was only a few months old and you can see it in her eyes that it breaks her heart to do that to him and feel like she’s torturing her little boy. She kept it together and did amazing when I was deployed to Afghanistan. Before I left she did it all and had a job too! She makes sure I have what I need and what her son needs before even thinking about what she needs. Those are only a few of the great things she has done for her family. She is one of the strongest mothers I have ever met in my life and truly deserves to win.
-Sean and Blake
(Husband and son)